LuLu and GamGam do men

• 2012-03-05

  

  And it’s most likely these same men we want to date. SERIOUSLY? What’s wrong with us?

• 2012-03-01

  Grammar and dating punctuation

  Please bear with me, I am on some crazy medication which has disturbed my sleeping pattern, resulted in me having the most random dreams; and now finally the most absurd ideas.

  I would like to boldly propose that grammar and dating are in fact akin.

  As ludicrous as it may sound I believe that grammar and dating fundamentally are based on the same principals.

  “The writer who neglects punctuation, or mispunctuates, is liable to be misunderstood” - Edgar Allan Poe

  In dating if we are not using punctuation, i.e clear signals to highlight what we mean, we will be misunderstood. Dating punctuation marks would be actions such as a kiss, a call back, a text, et cetera. A kiss could perhaps equal a semi colon, not as harsh as a full stop but more affective than comma. In which case a comma would be a gentle handshake and I guess that means a full stop would be intercourse? yes? No?

  The point is a question mark is exactly that a question mark, it has a function! It tells us that we are at the end of a question, one that requires an answer. If we had a set of simple rules akin to punctuation then ironically I think there would be fewer question marks floating around on the dating scene. 

  “Punctuation indicates emotion and attitude”

  Punctuation is good! We need it! The question then is how to enforce it? Who draws up the rules and regulations for dating punctuation? 

  If you thought dating grammar involved punctuation alone, you were gravely mistaken my friend. There is more! We need structure, sentence structure, yes subject-verb-object. Date, text, relationship? Grammar books provide many answers to questions such as “What is a sentence?” this is an excellent question especially when thought about in terms of relationships. The most viable answer is often: a sentence is a complete thought. 

  Voila, the answer to what is a relationship, the answer is a complete thought.

  We thought dating books were the answer, I am officially geeked out.

  GamGam

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  March and Nicki Minaj

  March in London is beautiful. I honestly wouldn’t have wanted to be anywhere else than London today, there’s a loving atmosphere around and I like it. Although this happy feeling may also be accredited to my positive thinking strategies i.e glass half fall ideology. Either way things just seem to keep getting better.

  On another note I’m obsessed with Nicki Minaj. She’s single right? Therefore being single is the ‘in’ thing. Lulu.xx

  

• 2012-02-17

  Peter Pan - Puer aeternus

  Most of my time as a singleite has been filled with males with Peter Pan syndrome, you know the type; enjoys a never ending childhood, lives in a fantasy world, your average puer aeternus; the eternal boy.

  Wikipedia describes the Puer as:

  ” The puer typically leads a provisional life, due to the fear of being caught in a situation from which it might not be possible to escape. he covets independence and freedom, chafes at boundaries and limits, and tends to find any restriction intolerable.”

  Lets be honest we all know a puer/Peter Pan, they present a very real problem for the modern mature independent woman. Is dating a puer to some extent not a form of emotional cradle snatching. 

  Ok, so no woman is really a cougar aged 24, but if we are dating men with the mind set of a 10 year old who refuses to grow up then surely the gap in emotional maturity is the equivalent of I don’t know say Jennifer Lopez and Madonna with their toy boys.

  The key is to spot the puer early on, so here is my list of things to look for:

  • If he doesn’t have a job/career that demands responsibility out of choice.
  • “Finds restrictions intolerable”
  • Often has big dreams for the future, but never follows through
  • Is always ready to shift the blame for things on others, an eternal scapegoat hunter
  • Always waits for opportunities as opposed to creating or chasing them

  Good luck ladies, here is hoping that nobody wants to be Wendy!

  GamGam

  Source: Wikipedia

• 2012-02-16

  I like me

  I like being single. I mean yeah it would be nice to meet someone I genuinely like and he feels the same. But it’s exciting to have such freedom and uncertainty in life. In six months time I could have met someone, who I don’t know at this very moment in time, they could have changed my life for the better or for worse. It doesn’t even matter, it will just be another experience to shape me as a person.

  I like me and my single status for once.

  LuLu

• 2012-02-14

  

  The single rose I got from my BROTHER for valentines LOL

  GamGam

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  Wise words from Maya Angelou - taken from Glamour’s 15 rules for single women

• 2012-02-13

  How NOT to stay single

  So I’ve started my research this week with the book how NOT to stay single by Nita Tucker. The book promises to guide the reader through 10 steps to a great relationship. Fantastic! This is just what I need, a manual! Obviously we haven’t been doing a great job so far as I am single and these 10 steps are how Nita bagged her husband 14 years ago.

  My cynicism does get the better of me and I can’t help but chuckle at sentences in the book such as:

  “Being single can be fun, and it can also be funny…But when you’re alone and don’t want to be, it’s not a joke” 

  Hahaha you think!

  Step one is cleverly entitled Come out of the closet and has an assignment at the end which consists of five parts.

  1. list all the reasons you have to justify why you don’t have a relationship. Mine are;

  • Men don’t seem to like me very much.
  • Men normally just seem to want casual sexual relationships with me.
  • I think I am too needy
  • There are seriously not enough good men around
  • Men can turn me off really easily
  • I am not attracted to the majority of the people who are attracted to me

     2. List all the reasons why you’re ashamed you don’t have a relationship.

  • All my friends are in serious relationships, feel singled out.
  • Feel immature
  • Feel it shows I have commitment issues
  • Does it mean my standards are too high?
  • Am I dare I say it, untouchable, unlovable, or a slag?

     3. List all the reasons why you’re ashamed about wanting a relationship.

  • It detracts from my independence
  • It does come across VERY VERY NEEDY
  • Feel like I would be too traditional and be betraying all the fun I have when I am single

     4.Write an essay entitled “why I want a relationship”.

  Because I want to share with someone, I want the intimacy and comfort and strength that comes from a good relationship. I want to have a family and be happy. I want to have someone who I care for and love. A relationship would allow us both to invest our energy in to a positive thing, it would be a positive progressive investment.

    5. Tell five friends you’re looking for a relationship.

  • Does this blog count?

  Why don’t you try this for yourself and see if it works? I am still very sceptical!

  GamGam

  

• 2012-02-10

  

  Here are my sources of research for this week. This looks like it will be very interesting!

• 2012-02-09

  

  Wise words from my sister - pt.2